Children and Thumb sucking and emotional feelings

if thumb sucking is associated with twisting a blanket, you might suggest that the child cuddle a doll instead. But don't make an issue of it. Interest in Sex You can be certain that sooner or later a child will be interested in the sex organs, where babies come from, even in sexual intercourse. If your relationship with him is a good one, he will ask questions just as freely as he asks why grass is green. They may not be easy questions to answer, but do your best to answer them truthfully. The fact is that telling the truth is simpler in the long run. 

Children don't mind deception about Santa Claus, mainly because there is fun in the deception and no tension about it in their parents. Deceptions about the stork, however, are likely to create problems. It is often hard for parents to explain later why they told the stork story.

It is easier to answer truthfully the simple questions small children ask than to take on the complicated ones they think of later. Tell the truth and you and the child get off to a good start. You need not go into details. That is more than the child usually can understand. Tell the truth simply and without baffling, meaningless analogies about birds and bees. / The first thing children usually want to know, sometimes when they are no more than two years old, is where babies come from. The answer can be simply that they grow inside their mothers. 

Then, or sometime later, a child is likely to ask how the baby got there, and an adequate answer can be that "It grew from a little seed that was there all the time." When, as is likely, the child wants to know how the baby got out, the answer can be "Through a special opening that mothers have." And when the child asks whether daddies have anything to do with it, it can be said that the father's seed is needed, too. It may be necessary to repeat all or part of this information frequently, but that does not mean that you should add more facts than the child demands.

Small children rarely expect explicit information about the sexual act or the actual mechanism of birth. When they are older and do want to know, explain simply in your own words. If you feel you can't do this, tell your child you will read to him about it. Many excellent books on birth in animals and human beings are available, and your librarian can suggest several. Give your child truthful answers about the sex organs, too. Sometimes, it may be necessary to volunteer a little information, since children are not always able to make their curiosity, or concern, known to their par- ents. The fact that a boy has a penis, and a girl does not, often is a source of worry to both of them.